"I'm pregnant, when should I tell everyone?

So, you found out you're pregnant and you don't know if you should tell everyone or not, when should you tell them. If you feel like this, I want to tell you, YOU are not the only one. 

I have been there. I am still there actually, still in my 7th week and I haven't told anyone but both of our parents, my manager (so she could not give me work that involves heavy lifting as I work in retail ) So, I am writing this blog as I am having all my doubts and questions, I thought maybe I should blog this journey, share all the questions which I'm googling about, and I can share this blog later when I'm "ready" 

Let's go back to why this all hush hush about hiding pregnancy news for first trimester. So, statistically 1 in 4 women will have a miscarriage in the first trimester. After 3 months, the chances of miscarriage reduces. The miscarriage that might happen during the first trimester is usually not caused due to any fault of the mother, and you can not stop it. (Ofcourse as far as I've read, you have to reduce extreme stressing, not have fruits like papaya, pineapple and avoid any heavy lifting) So, it is beyond our control. The miscarriage that happens is the natural way of our body to tell us that there is some abnormality with the pregnancy. Your doctor will tell you when it is a risk, an issue that needs to be looked into, in most cases it is if someone has 3 back to back. 

As you can see, like every pregnant woman I've read on it and you would find every such video in my youtube watch history - like what to eat, how to avoid miscarriage in the first trimester, etc. 

The main reason we don't tell people the news during the first trimester is because we might have to give them the bad news if there is a miscarriage. 

But, I personally think this whole "hush hush" thing really adds a lot of stress to someone who actually was excited when they saw those 2 lines or the word "pregnant" on the pregnancy test kit. I realized this when I first told my manager at Target. She was SO happy, literally jumped up and down! She started saying "Oh my god, that is amazing!!! I am SO happy for you. AH! " She was smiling from cheek to cheek! 

I was so caught up with the pregnancy news, tests and everything, being unsure with the timing, her reaction made me emotional. I was teary. 

I remember that was the first time, I walked into a bakery, ordered a piece of cake and enjoyed that moment. Let that reality set in that, "wow, I'm pregnant. It is a new beginning.." 

but let's come to main question - when should you share your pregnancy news? This is what I think - 

It depends on the person you are. If you are the kind of person who would jump to share any big or small life update with your friends/family, then I think you would feel better if you let them know. I would suggest to inform only the closest, those who will genuinely be happy for you with the news BUT also will be there for you if any unfortunate situation happens, because if it does, you would need that support. 

I hope reading my thoughts on this journey helped you, I have other blogs regarding pregnancy, you can check out here - Pregnancy Series 

If this resonated with you, do let me know on my DMs at instagram, and share with a friend. It would mean a lot to me. 

Best wishes on your journey! 

-Faabiha